Why am i undateable

If you bluntly put all of your feelings out on the table way too early, chances are, you'll scare him away. He'll be sprinting for the hills rejoicing he dodged a major bullet. Single life can be absolutely incredible and freeing.

Your squad is life, and nothing can get between you and your gal pals. But being undateable forever can turn out to be an extremely lonely life… especially if and when all of your friends suddenly get into serious relationships. Then, what do you have left? You go, girl. Excelling in your career is a high like no other — and YES, it should be a top priority.

A guy will probably find this intimidating and think you don't have any time for him But don't let every single thing he does annoy the crap out of you. It's not fair to him, and he doesn't deserve that. One night, he finally brought it up. We were mid-conversation about Proust, when he said,.

What do you want from me? I froze. I wanted to date him. I wanted him to kiss me. I wanted lots of things, most of all to feel wanted. How embarrassing for you, and what an awkward position to put him in! To you, the reader, this mindset might seem silly, nonsensical, baseless. But this belief I have is deep-set, stubborn and difficult to unlearn.

So that brings me to these last few months. The pattern goes like this: I meet a guy, and we hang out. I become attracted to him, but I receive mixed signals from him, which leaves me wondering: Is he into me? Or are we just friends hanging out one on one? That primordial fear comes creeping back, that I am not worthy of what I want, so how can I possibly speak it out loud? My job here as a woman is to play small and wait. If he is less interested in me because of my desire for him and my honesty about it, then I was never going to be truly known and loved by him anyway.

I lose that game every time, and playing it feels inauthentic to who I am. I want and need to be able to express my whole self freely to someone I consider a partner.

More importantly, speaking my desire is a way of honoring myself and my own feelings — desire being a perfectly legitimate feeling. If he brings it up first?

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